I've read plenty of books dating and read too many blogs on dating, dressing modest, and purity rings. There are so many perspectives and for a young Christian woman and these opinions can be overwhelming. The one thing I have rested on is that loving Jesus gives me fulfillment.
When I get anxious about being single I have realized one thing:
My feelings are fleeting and cannot be trusted.
Some days I feel like I can change the worldSome days I wonder why I am singleSomedays I compare my life with othersSome days I feel disconnected from some of my peersSomedays I am full of passion and drive
What I am learning is, my feelings will change and somedays betray me and somedays tear me away from my destiny. If I buy into the lie that my dreams or goals can't happen unless I am married then I what am I really living for? Who am I living for-my imaginary husband?
I ask myself often, "Can I really trust Jesus and his plan? Can I just do that?" Someday's it is challenging especially when you are sitting at yet another wedding or bridal shower but I have quickly realized that I love my life and I am so blessed. I am right where I need to be and although, it is not where I thought I would be; I am thankful for where I am right now. I am so enriched by the people that make everyday better.
Let's just face it, I am having so much fun.
Culture says I should be defined by my relationship status and I beg to differ.
I think that instead of debating whether or not getting married before you're 23 or staying single till 25 is better, we just celebrate each other. Instead of comparing our journey's lets learn from each other. Some people get married early, some people get married late, some people have kids, some people don't, some people stay single because they WANT to. Everyone's path is different. There is no right or wrong.
Life gets tough but one thing I have learned is living in community is life giving. My relationships with my family, my married friends, my single friends, and mentors enriches my life.
Every stage of life is valuable and so priceless.
Below is the definition of single. sin·gle
adjective 1.only one; not one of several. Here are the synonyms: alone, companionless, lone, lonely, lonesome, solitary,unaccompanied.
Live out those dreams.
And Like My brother says, "Just love Jesus."
Somehow we think that loving Jesus won't be enough because
we want a relationship with someone "in the flesh."
No matter how hard we tryNO ONE
can fill the God shaped hole we were all born with.
Only God can.
Until we understand that
nothing and no one will satisfy those desires.
Of course these pictures represent a fraction of the people that enrich my life but they make life fun. These people strengthen me, encourage me, and laugh with me. Guess what, some of them are married, single, dating, or engaged, sharing life with them brings me joy.
So when your feelings try to take over and put you down, remember that every day we GET to enjoy this life we have been given and that is worth living for.